“Being human is complex, even if it is fun. Emotions create memories that can be intoxicating if not properly monitored and healed.”
For the last 2 years, journaling has become an extended part of me. Filled with my heartaches and deepest desires, it’s helped me make sense of what the hell is going on inside my head. Being human is complex, even if it is fun. Emotions create memories that can be intoxicating if not properly monitored and healed.
Learning to navigate my well-being has been the biggest challenge, but putting myself first was the best decision I ever made. As I’ve been metamorphosing into my being, I’ve picked up a few new habits along the way:
Protect Yourself
Boundaries are rarely taught in grade school and they definitely weren’t taught in my home. It took me years to understand what that even meant to me… but what I’ve realized is that it’s no longer debilitating or stopping me from creating my own reality.
Setting boundaries with your friends and family is the first thing that needs to happen in order for you to live entirely in your authenticity.
Choose your Friends Wisely
Beware of who you share your energy with. Don’t be deceived by nice words and nothing to back it up. Time will show you who will stay by your side. Make yourself a team and you’re guaranteed to thrive.
There’s no need to do things alone. Besides, some things are just better in groups.
Be Kind
Trust me when I say your patience will be tested. It’s part of the human experience. Remember to stay kind when they push your buttons, especially when you don’t want to. This decision is not so you can give the other cheek. It’s so that we can rise into a blissful time of peace as a society.
Kindness is free to give and get, so why not?
Stay True to You
Trust in your divinity to guide you towards the life of your dreams. The energy that created us created mini-me’s of itself. You have to truly believe that everything you need lies within you, and watch… the life around you will transform. This can only be done by living life under no one else’s moral compass but your own.
Stand for what you believe in and don’t let anyone bully you into thinking you’re anything less than enough.
Give Back
We have been raised to think individually, but can you imagine a world where we could all give back freely? Share your blessings and more will come your way. That’s not just being kind to your neighbor or giving the homeless a dollar bill… It’s offering to pay for the single mother still waiting on her check or volunteering your time to a worthy cause, or even taking the time to sponsor a child in need.
There is so much to learn in these moments of service. Enjoy, connect, and keep them coming.
Write it Out
It doesn’t even have to make sense, but get it all out on paper so you can make room for the rest. A clouded mind is as useful as a doctor in a cemetery. Wasted time is easy, but if you question your thoughts and limiting beliefs, I bet you’d discover that most of them aren’t true.
Say I’m Sorry
You’d be surprised at how those two words can change a story. Feeling unappreciated or misunderstood is common, however, when someone is willing to step down from their pride and admit to being wrong, forgiveness is near and progression is made.
It’s not worth it to always be right. Be willing to be wrong or ask why they felt that way—especially if the conversation is tough.
Live in Gratitude
A simple thank you goes a long way, but a constant state of gratefulness can transform the way you live your day-to-day. It’s in the little things that I have seen what magic looks like. The bigger things will come naturally, so start saying thank you.
Even when you feel you have nothing to be thankful for, say thank you. For the future is still unknown.
Never Settle
Getting too comfortable is going to end up weighing you down. Keep pushing your limits and know your worth. There is so much to see and do that you’ll never run out of ways to learn and grow. Remember that the only person that can stop you, is you.
Don’t be sorry for wanting what you deserve, it’s your God-given right.
I hope this helps, it’s definitely helped me.
I still have days where my judgement paralyzes me into believing I’m a failed human being. They don’t last long, don’t worry. I built my team. I’ve got people that remind me how incredible I am just for existing.
I wish you love. I wish you joy. I wish you a wild experience at being a human being.
I love you.
-Taynahmite.